…Two years after we planted Clear Creek Community Church, I recognized a feeling of emotional detachment from my wife and kids. I don’t remember where the question came from, but I asked myself, “What if my wife and children never feel loved by me?” I thought about how much of a failure I would be if I planted a church successfully, but I did not know how to love my wife and kids in a way that they felt cherished, protected and connected to me. What if I reached the end of my one and only life and thousands of people became Christians, but my children wanted nothing to do with me?
–Bruce Wesley, “Loving My Wife and Children More than Ministry.”
If you haven’t met him, we’d like to introduce you to Bruce Wesley, Acts ...
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By Ben Connelly
A planter’s wife told me a few months before we started our church, “You’re not a real church planter unless you have a kid within the first year.” She was joking, but my wife Jess and I apparently took her seriously. Four months into planting, we found ourselves preparing for both our first church and our first child. We’re thrilled, but in the middle of these busiest, most-stressful, “more-late-nights-than-college” months, the life change makes us wonder how we’ll balance it all. Again. Because it feels like we’ve just started figuring out how to balance life, marriage, ministry, jobs, etc. with just two of us!
Here are three things I’ve learned about marriage:
Be Intentional
I was amazed how quickly after our ...
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"I think most marriages have a tendency to accept sin in either spouse. One spouse becomes dominant, and the other passive. They go through life trying to manage sin rather than allowing God to change them from the inside out, through the finished work of Christ and the abiding Holy Spirit."
Recently Dave Bruskas, Pastor of the Albuquerque Campus of Mars Hill Church (formerly City on a Hill Church), answered some questions for Scott Thomas about his marriage and raising four daughters as a pastor.
Dave and his wife Kara have four daughters, ages 11 to 19, and it is clear to everyone who meets this family how much joy they have in serving the Lord together.
In this video, Scott asks Dave:
How would you describe a healthy marriage?
How does Kara help you not ...
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Thanksgiving is less than three weeks away. The holidays are upon us. We are posting this early to be a help to you as you finalize holiday plans and before they have commenced.
By C.J. Mahaney
Full article available here. Reproduced with permission.
What a family looks like—what a family experiences on a vacation—is largely determined by the father’s attitude and leadership prior to and during the vacation. Some fathers charge into a vacation at a place like Disney World committed to visiting every venue, seeing every show, and experiencing every ride. Every moment and detail has been planned with military precision as the father leads his wife and children on the long-awaited mission. But by noon the first day, the ...
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