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How to Schedule Yourself And Your Kids | Planter Wives Answer, pt. 2

Last month in Dallas during the boot camp, many wives attended the Wives' Track hosted by Acts 29 church planter's wives. We recently posted audio from Part 1 of their Q&A time here. Below we're including portions of the transcriptions from Part 1.

  

L-R: Stephanie White (Ft. Worth; wife of Rick), and Lauren Chandler (Dallas; wife of Matt) who answered the questions below.

"Read Your Bible On Your Phone When You're Up Nursing Again at 3 A.M."

Q: What advice do you have for young moms with small children to structure the home and schedule well?

Lauren: Iʼm not a naturally scheduled person. I definitely thrive when I have a schedule, but just the idea of having to set one up kind of overwhelms me. We started Audrey at a university-model school where she goes to class for several hours twice a week. Then I home school her on our off days. That has really helped me be scheduled, because I am held accountable by this teacher to get this certain amount of work done. When Audrey gets home from school, Iʼm forced to be structured and to say, “you do your worksheets and then you can go play.” I still havenʼt figured out chores yet, the kids are five, eight and eleven – weʼre kind of at “pick your room up.” I have to be scheduled because I know there are things that if I donʼt get them done then Iʼm going to be overwhelmed: thereʼs going to be a mountain of laundry, a mountain of school work, etc. So if I just take a little bit of time each day to do it, then Iʼm not overwhelmed. But hold your schedule with an open hand. Itʼs going to look different on different weeks. Youʼre going to have different things going on, so get the stuff done thatʼs important, and then all the other stuff youʼll eventually get to.

Stephanie: My kids are young too, but getting older. I have a whiteboard in my house, so when my older kids are at school, Iʼll think, “Oh I want Aidan to empty his trash because thatʼs disgusting.” So Iʼll write it there, and that way I donʼt overwhelm my children when they come home. Especially when I know Annabelle has homework on these days and Reagan, my oldest, has more homework. If they need to practice piano, then Iʼll make sure itʼs ʻpiano for you,ʼ ʻhomework for you,ʼ and ʻyou donʼt have homework, so itʼs empty your trash and put away your laundry.ʼ” That way I donʼt overwhelm my children. As I think about it throughout the day I can just write it on my white board and my children are trained. They walk in, they get their snack, they know that they have until 4 p.m. to unwind and then, usually my oldest will say, “itʼs four oʼclock!” Theyʼll go and start working through the list. They love to mark off, and they know in order to mark off they have to do first. Thatʼs been remarkable. It works in our house very well.

Q: With young children in the home, how do you maintain your relationship with the Lord?

Lauren: I guess in the infant stage, you just take whatever you can get. Even if youʼre nursing or if youʼre feeding your baby in the middle of the night, getting your phone out and reading the Bible, reading an en- couraging blog, one thatʼs going to point you to the Lord or whatever. I would say donʼt waste that time. The iPhone is great because then you donʼt have to turn a light on. Take the sweet lullaby time and sing praise songs over your babies. Getting time with the Lord doesnʼt have to look a certain way: you donʼt have to sit down at your dining table and pull out your Tozer. Just grabbing any moment you can, or even taking one Scripture verse, especially in those times when your brain is so fried, and just having one verse that you just go to over and over again. I did that with Nora. And as they get older, Matt and I are loving this new rhythm weʼve gotten into where Noraʼs in bed at seven-thirty and the other two are in bed at eight, and we go to bed at nine or nine-thirty. We feel like old people, but then we get to wake up in the morning before the kids are up and begging for us and we get to spend our time there to- gether and I get to ask him questions like, “Iʼm reading this, what does this mean?” So I think just for me with Audrey sheʼs at that age where sheʼll go to bed at seven-thirty. I used to stay up really late and then I just wasnʼt ready to be a mom in the morning because I was toast. Audrey was getting up at six in the morning and I just wasnʼt ready to be mom, so Iʼd have a crappy attitude for the rest of the day. I needed to just go to bed and take advantage of just being recharged.

"I think I had a selfish mindset about my time. Yes, you need your own time, but itʼs like ʻwhat are you really doing?ʼ Because for me, I was on Facebook and I was watching TV."

So I feel like I wasted a lot of that time when I could have been better prepared for the next morning. But if you waste it, the Lord is still good and you havenʼt failed as a mom or as a wife. There is grace there so donʼt let that be a discouragement to you, either.

Stephanie: I think you have to be creative when your children are young. Itʼs not always going to be structured. Like you were saying, when youʼre nursing, donʼt waste that time. I spend a lot of time in the carpool lane. Iʼve been redeeming it (most of the time!) with the Word. When I do the dishes, Iʼm finding joy in that. Because I used to kind of think, ”I hate doing this,” but itʼs just a great time to rejoice and thank the Lord for toilets that are dirty, that I have a home to clean. When I read through Feminine Appeal, I was really challenged in that area of just finding joy in those tasks. When my spirit wants to grumble, thatʼs a good time to worship. 

 

Listen here or download the Q&A. More will be posted soon from the Wives' Track at the Dallas Boot Camp.

 

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